We all know and accept that the relationship of a husband and a wife is too strong yet so brittle like a glass and weak like a thread, but if one tries to make it crystal clear that is not a good option, as when a wife thought that she should share every thing with her husband so he could accept her with her faults and strengths, that seemed to be very interesting while reading in novels and watching in movies/dramas, but in reality there are many things that we have to keep them to ourselves, there are many things that we share with one friend and share other stuff with another friend because we know that what type of friend we have and what type of things he or she can digest and what type of answer they going to give to us. With husband things are different, whether they are like your friends or they act like your supporter( or like fathers) still they are a totally different relationship, so one has to think before one speaks, i think that idem is very much related to husband and wife relationship.
The 10 Most Important Things Which A Wife Should Not Share With Her Husband can alter considering the individual difference but still generally speaking the hierarchy is as follows:
Few people said that a wife should not share her professional problems related to other male colleagues with her husband, as it hurts males ego and his first reaction would be to complaint against him(her colleague) or he also can ask her to leave the job or if he is an aggressive kind of a person he can reply aggressively in any way. Whether towards his wife or towards the colleague.
Wives share their apprehensions about their husbands colleagues or usually show their dis likeness by talking negative about their husbands colleagues and friends which might result into fights and then the husbands has to pay back in the same coin.
8-Stories About friendships
Wives feel proud by telling the stories about their friendships and about their achievements to their husbands which also creates a feeling of tussle in the males as they take that as a show off thing and sometimes try to prove themselves better by making their wives inferior verbally or non-verbally.
Mostly females when got married, they start a comparison between their father and their brothers with their husband and usually they give example of her parents and siblings in each thing what the husband do or say, so they should realize that they have a husband, its not their father or brother, so they should expect him to act and react as their husbands, whether they tell emotional stories of their fathers or brothers love and care towards her still he remain the husband,so wives should stop doing this and stop sharing what their father or brother do or don’t do with their husbands, as it irritates the husbands and some times whether they are in a mood of doing good to the wives, in anger they do bad.
Wives should not leave their mobiles without codes, as by accident too if your husband catch your messages or phone calls (your gossips about in laws, about him or about any other issues) it can become an issue, in the same way don’t give your emails or face book passwords to your husbands.It does not mean that wives should cheat their husband but they should keep something in their privacy only.
5-Stop Writing Diaries
Wives should not let their diaries easily accessible to husbands, it might be dangerous in longer rum for the relationship, because the written proof is always dangerous, stop writing dairies, don’t let your secrets openly available.
don’t share with your husband your own family gossips or family fights, in this way you are providing your weaknesses to your husband so he cut remarks on you and your family when ever he is offended with you or with your family.So before getting too much emotional keep this on your mind before telling something to your husband.
Wives should not share their siblings secrets with their husbands or their views or type of relationship with their siblings, it will create a feeling of disrespect in husbands heart for her family, or may husband will try to ignore your relatives in future.
2-Affairs, Breakups or experiences
Wives should not share their previous affairs, breakups or experiences with their husbands as sometimes wives think that they wanted to be a clean picture in front of their husbands, so dear their is no need for that cause if you tell that once to your husband will be going to open the door of doubts and suspicion in their minds which could never be recovered.
Wives wives wives, please don’t talk about your husbands family reactions and especially their parents complaints excessively in front of them, do it once a month if it bothers you a lot but frequently complaining about husbands parents and family can make his finding faults against you and your family in revenge. So sure your relationship by holding your tongue.It will help you to live a happy life with your husband and his family too.